What if Your Husband Cheated on You, Only Once Though?

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Why do i feel I just read the minds of a dozen of women, all at the same time, “I would just kill that bastard. Period.” Wasn’t this the first statement that popped into your head the moment you read the heading of this article? For sure I know, this is what Kareena Kapoor’s blatant would have been. Years before she stepped into royalty to take over the title of Begum, voicing out her possessiveness for the then beau Shahid Kapoor, she declared, “I do not mind being put behind the bars for killing any woman who dared have an eye on Shahid.” It didn’t sound outlandish to my ears because her opinion on infidelity echoed mine. I would rather kill my man first. However, this entire concept of bloating with possessiveness appears a little strange to me today, and I am made to believe that my sense of authority over the man I love doesn’t comply with the modern theories of commitment.

The other day I was with this friend of mine whose fiancé is on an onsite tour for the next six months. The demands of a long distance relationship can be unforgiving, though, my friend is a very forgiving woman. While sipping in some coffee she extends unfailing generosity to her man by permitting him to visit prostitutes if need be, the only condition remains that he will not kiss them on their mouths.

My coffee stayed to cool down as I heard my jaw against the floor. “That’s okay, it is a demand, and you got to satisfy it. Like you feel hungry, thirsty, sleepy, and you have to provide for these physical needs, you have to respond to the body’s appetite for sex too.” she explained. I guess I am too conservative to find a single cell in my brain that agreed to her approval of her fiancé’s sexual encounters elsewhere, despite being committed to her.

Suffering the inferiority complex of my incompatibility to the modern concepts of relationships and their altered boundaries, I surveyed issues of infidelity with some more women within my social circle. I was appalled to discover the terrifyingly large number of women who were aware of their husband’s infidelity, their thriving relationships with someone at work or an ex-girlfriend whom he located in Facebook after years of dormancy, and their indifference to it. Shalini’s marriage, on the grounds of loyalty, had died many deaths in the past three years. Now even the fire of its cremation was put off. She was living this marriage for the children, at least that is how she reasons her stay.

Margarete’s husband had crossed the line with one of his colleagues while she was on an all-ladies trip to Sikkim. The truth was exposed to her through a mystery email that hit her inbox a couple of months later. Initially outraged by the blow of harsh reality, she had gradually conceded to the truth. The last thing she could do was to turn back time and undo the damage. Whether she has at all forgiven the husband or not, is a question that riddles her mind even after 4 years of the incident.

But not all women are submissive in today’s world, there are indeed a few who won’t hesitate walking the extreme edges to square out those few casual moments of their partner’s infidelity. Ruby filed for a divorce within 7 months of marriage on learning of her husband’s immoral sexual involvements with his sister-in-law while he was dating Ruby. The court is still in a fix if pre-marital adultery serves as a reason strong enough to break a marriage, but Ruby seems to be in no mood to entertain a single second thought on this.

For 16 year-old Ayesha, her boyfriend’s lip wrestling with a random girl at a night club provided enough material to call off the relationship. “I am just 16, I still have a couple of years before I am allowed to go to bars and drink. And if my inability to live up to his life style encourages him to cheat on me, I refuse to continue with this relationship any further. By the time I am 18, I wonder how many women he would have locked lips with.” Looks like little Ayesha isn’t that little after all. Kids are anyway growing smarter these days.

However be it a housewife in her mid-forties or a teenager just at the doorstep of romance, infidelity is that bitterness which every tongue is at risk of tasting. Situations could be dissimilar, stemming out of unsolicited causes. Now whether the verdict comes as a retaliation or reconciliation is a matter of personal opinion and a zillion other factors that influence the dynamics of their relationship. One can never generalize on this subject. By the way, what would you do, if your man cheated on you, even once? Suit yourself, ladies!