7 First Time Experiences that Bring Newlyweds Closer

Your first kiss, your first official getaway together, your first dance after marriage, are all very special, right? But these are not all. There are many more first-time experiences that are probably equally memorable, although for different reasons. They can be very scary, we agree, but believe us, these are the experiences that will bring you closer and make your bond stronger.

These are the experiences that set the tone of your relationship for many years to come. Here are eight such first-time experiences that you should welcome with a smile.

#1. Your first major fight

Your first fight after marriage is always the most charged one somehow. These can often start with words like, ‘you never’, ‘you always’, and can take a nasty turn. Always take time to breathe before you say something. If you think you have a valid point to argue about, just put it across sensibly so your partner is not hurt in the process. Once the tiff is over, you both will laugh over it, and come even closer.

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#2. Your first big, solid purchase

Be it buying a new home, or an office space or a property for investment purpose, your first big purchase post-marriage would always be special and close to your heart. So, make sure you don’t goof-up while making the choice. Also, have a detailed discussion with your partner for coming to a decision, as this is also one of the first steps to strengthening your bond.

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#3. Your first "in-laws issue"

However rosy the relationship with the in-laws may be, there is always a time post-marriage, when girls have an argument with their mother-in-law, or some problem with their father-in-law's decisions or maybe with their sister-in-law’s attitude. Always be prepared for such issues and handle them with sheer patience and calmness. Never react impulsively and never let these issues act as a wedge between you and your husband. He will definitely notice how you keep things from affecting your relationship with him. Eventually, you will learn how to deal with such experiences, and things will get smoother.

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#4. Your first "when are you giving the good news?" moment

Soon after you get married, all elders in the family are going to go quite crazy asking you about your baby plans, just accept the fact. But how to deal with these awkward questions? The trick lies in never overreacting and getting into the pressure of things. You can simply say, “We are not quite there yet!’, and move on to talk about something else swiftly. Such questions will in fact bring you and your partner closer as you discuss them later.

#5. Your first time hosting a dinner party

Do not put too much pressure on yourself while organising parties. Sure you want to look like the perfect host/hostess, but you cannot panic about that! Stay calm, and take help from friends and family. Just mingle with the guests, enjoy and have fun while being a fabulous host. Don't worry about how it will go, and you will be just fine.

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#6. Your first encounter with "jealousy"

Did you spot your partner being over-friendly with one of their friends? Okay, so first things first- act mature and stay calm. If your better half is being friendly, or if someone is being “too close” to your partner, just don’t overreact. Showing anger, doubt, jealousy, or constant insecurity, will only irritate your partner. Either ignore it, or if the person is being too friendly, just say casually to them, “I cannot blame you, he/she is undoubtedly the hottest person in the room!" This shall surely reflect your confidence in your partner and will alarm the other person too.

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#7. Your first "why did I get married" feeling

Your partner is the love of your life, your “one and only”, but let’s face it, at times married life can be crazy. After the mushy, honeymoon phase is over, the feeling of “being married” and all the responsibilities, can suddenly hit you. Especially after the first argument or disagreement, you are bound to feel frustrated about the situation. Just remind yourself of the lovely times you have had so far and why you fell in love. Although times like these can be tiresome, they also make the both of you stronger and better prepared for tougher times (if any) in the future. 

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Even though most of these experiences will frustrate you or even leave you fuming at times, trust us, they will be the building blocks of your relationship.